My father died five years ago yesterday. I remember receiving the call from my mother. She dialed me from a satellite phone from a fairly remote area in Albania, the country where my dad was serving as the U.S. Ambassador. I was shaken by the news--he was only 55 and seemed to be in good health--but I didn't grieve, not just then. Like so many others in shock by the loss of a loved one, I was distracted by the work that needed to be done. Family members needed to be called. A memorial service needed to be planned. My mother's life was suddenly without direction; while she usually managed to stay employed full-time, she'd uprooted herself (and us) every few years as Dad's assignments took us from place to place.As it happened, my mom stayed in Albania to oversee a local memorial service (Joseph Limprecht was something of a celebrity there) before accompanying Dad's body home to Washington. My sister and her fiance flew in from Australia, and I helped the State Department coordinator plan a memorial service in D.C. We ended up choosing to have the service at the DACOR-Bacon House, where I'd been married just 2 years earlier.
It wasn't until a few months later that I really came to grips with my Dad's death. I was never terribly close to my father--if anything, I regret we didn't have the chance to deepen our bond. But I often wonder what Grandpa Joe might have been like.
1 comments:
I often regret that your father never got to see his grandchildren. And yet in a real and important way, he lives again in and through them as he does through you and your sister.
And although you know best from your own perspective how close the relationship between you and your father was, it seemed to me that he did a pretty good job of fathering.
And is the fact that you married a very verbal, funny, intelligent and often cynical man with a wide-ranging interests and a love of music totally unrelated to what your own father was like?? It seems to me that he modeled certain characteristics that you liked as well as ones that you were determined to improve upon! What more can a parent aspire to??
Love,
Mom
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